When I first heard the phrase “how to do anything” I thought it was a joke. Then I realized that many people believed that. “How to do anything” is not a joke. It is very simple formula: Go out there and have fun.
As with everything, there are different ways to do the same thing. You can read a book, watch a movie, read a blog post, join a group, or use a smartphone app. You can even get some of the information you need to learn a new skill by watching a video tutorial or listening to someone else tell you how to do it.
We all have goals in life. They might be big, small, or somewhere in between. But they’re important, and if you want to accomplish them there are a few key points to keep in mind.
Have you forgotten about your run? Have you overindulged once more? Don’t be alarmed. With the appropriate blueprint, you can become unstuck. Here’s how to do anything, including the difficult stuff.
Get inside your vehicle. Turn the key in the ignition. Take a left into the road. Get up to speed. Merge to the left.
You just smacked someone on the side of the head.
What went wrong?
Do you have a bad driving record? (Maybe. Most individuals mistakenly believe they are “better than average,” but we’ll get to that in a minute.)
More than likely, you skipped a stage in the process by failing to check your mirrors and blindspot before switching lanes.
Before the thing, you didn’t do the thing.
Things come first.
Consider all the things you’ve attempted yet failed to complete.
Losing weight and getting in shape are common goals for clients.
People try their hardest with the best of intentions, but something always happens.
They have become “stuck.” Frustrated. Overeating something they promised themselves they wouldn’t consume. They didn’t show up for an exercise they said they’d do.
Sideswiped, bam, bam, bam, bam, bam, bam
What went wrong?
Once again, it’s extremely possible that they skipped a stage in the process.
They didn’t do it before the thing happened.
There are more steps involved than you might think.
Let’s return to driving.
Consider the first time you climbed into a car and attempted to drive. It was most likely a bit overwhelming (unless you were one of those kids who grew up on a farm and was driving a tractor by age six).
There are so many things to keep in mind!
Adjust the seat, mirrors, and seatbelt, hands at 10 and 2 o’clock, make sure you know where the speedometer is (and how to check it), fiddle with the A/C and radio controls, locate the turn signal and windshield wiper levers, and figure out how to switch on the headlights… And don’t even get me started on cruise control, clutch, and gearbox!
When you drive as an adult, you don’t have to think about any of that.
You simply… drive.
In fact, driving may be so natural that you can do it while conversing, talking on the phone, listening to the radio, or, God forbid, texting. (Please don’t do the final one.)
You arrive somewhere and are taken aback because you were zoning out for the majority of the journey. It’s unusual that you drive entirely deliberately these days.
However, consider all of the stages involved.
Could you explain all of them to a computer or an extraterrestrial? Before you even got out of the driveway, you’d probably have to travel through around 25 steps.
Almost usually, there are more steps than you anticipate.
In addition, the order in which things are done is quite important.
Not only are there more processes than you expect, but they also have to be done in a specific order.
You can’t start driving until the automobile is turned on and in gear, for example.
Getting healthy, improving your diet, and getting in shape are all examples of this. It’s a fact that you can’t run before you’ve learned to walk.
- If you don’t know how to shop for groceries efficiently… You are unlikely to keep nutritious foods on hand in your kitchen.
- If you’re not sure how to organize your time… You’ll most likely be “too busy” to exercise consistently or “too rushed” to eat healthily.
- If you don’t know how to be conscious of your thoughts, feelings, and motives, you’ll likely find yourself repeating “poor habits,” baffled as to how you ended up with your hand in the Doritos bag once more.
However, consider this:
- If you can cook, you may use a meal template to get creative and create tasty, nutritious meals that will help you stay healthy.
- If you can eat slowly, you will be able to properly digest your food, feel truly satiated, and prevent overeating.
- If you can safely squat, you can add weight to the bar without injuring yourself and improve your fitness with each workout.
You can succeed if you follow the steps in the correct order and do not skip any.
All you have to do now is figure out the order in which the tasks should be completed.
You aren’t as talented as you believe (sorry)
Here’s another tough aspect of accomplishing things:
We believe we are better at things than we are.
Most people believe they are “better than average” drivers, for example.
In one well-known survey, 93 percent of Americans rated their own driving abilities as being above the median – that is, in the top half of all drivers.
Those 7% must be the ones causing all the fender-benders, huh? The Dakar Rally and Formula One circuit are clearly hammering the rest of us.
We can’t all be “better,” logically.
This is referred to as illusory superiority, or the false belief that we are better than most people – at anything: driving, delivering jokes, having informed political beliefs, being a friend…
We have no idea when or how we go wrong.
Here’s the conundrum:
- The majority of us lack the ability to appropriately assess our own competence level.
- But, precisely because we lack those abilities, we believe – and are certain — that we are judging appropriately.
We don’t realize we’re wrong because we lack the necessary skills to recognize it.
Of course, it’s impossible to determine exactly where we’re going wrong then.
Even if we are conscious that we want to improve ourselves, we often are unable to do so because we are unsure where to begin.
Consider the “weekend handyman” who assumes that plumbing is “simple” and ends up with a toilet that explodes. That repair task appears simple… to someone who isn’t a professional plumber.
So we’re mistaken about ourselves and don’t even realize it. Which causes us to do even more erroneous things!
But, believe it or not, there’s some good news in there as well.
This is why:
- If you’re having trouble doing something, it’s possible that you’re not very good at it. It’s preferable than being stupid, lazy, a horrible person, a “failure,” or “unmotivated.” Because…
- If you’re not very good at something, there’s almost certainly a method to improve. It is possible to learn any talent. And…
- In general, talents that must be learnt are likely to have a large number of teachers who can assist you in learning them. They are the only ones who are capable of effectively guiding and assessing you.
To put it another way, you can almost surely do what you want to do.
Coaching and practice are all that is required.
Information is not the same as skill.
“Yes, but I know what to eat!” you might be thinking as you read this. “Yes, but I’ve been working out for years!” or “Yes, but I’ve been working out for years!”
As a result, you may have some knowledge. You might possibly have some prior work experience.
But that’s not the same as having the talents.
For example, you could spend all day watching automobile racing on television. You could listen to Car Talk or even fix cars yourself if you know what you’re doing. You might be able to recite the majority of your town’s traffic laws.
That does not imply that you know how to drive or that you can drive properly.
You are almost certainly not a superb driver if you have not been trained as a driver; if you have not practiced, developed, and regularly reviewed your driving skills under the supervision of an expert coach.
The same may be said about eating healthy and exercising regularly.
You can browse blogs on fitness and nutrition. You can watch sporting events or food shows. You may go to a farmers’ market or an organic food shop. You might have a juicer or a treadmill in your home.
However, knowing what to buy and how to prepare it is not the same as having the abilities to do it week after week and month after month in the context of your hurried modern life.
Just as you needed direction and practice to improve your singing, software development, primary school teaching, emotion regulation, or getting your kids out the door in the morning… To learn how to eat well and stay healthy, you’ll need guidance.
If you are unable to complete the tasks,
You can, in fact, do so.
You can change whatever is bothering you right now: your eating habits, being out of shape, a lingering sports injury, those dangling jeans…
The only reason you haven’t been able to do so far and “keep ending up back here” is because of the following:
- You’ve most likely skipped at least one step by attempting to complete Thing 2 before Thing 1. (or Thing 17 before Thing 1). And/or…
- It’s possible that you don’t have the skills to accomplish the tasks that come before the one you wish to do. It’s possible that you’ll need to work on being better at Thing 1 first. It’s possible that you’ll require some training or guidance.
So it’s just a matter of learning the process and honing your skills, not a personal failure.
Here are some ideas:
To figure out how to do something, start with the end result in mind and work your way backwards.
Try to see all of the stages — each teeny, tiny solitary step — that would be required to achieve that result.
Make an item-by-item map or try filling in the blanks numerous times:
“I have to in order to .”
Consider the following scenario:
I want to go to the gym three times a week as a result of this.
- I have to stick to a regimen in order to go to the gym three times a week.
- I need to create a regular habit and schedule it in my calendar in order to keep to it.
- I need to figure out how much time I’ll need for each gym trip before I can design that program and put it on my calendar.
- To calculate how much time I’ll need, I’ll total up the time it takes me to pack my gym gear, get to the gym, work out, and return home.
- I need to locate three slots per week that offer the amount of time I have calculated in order to add the gym to my calendar.
And so forth.
You’ll note that a lot of things have to happen here – things you probably didn’t consider at first.
Don’t get overwhelmed or try to tackle everything at once; keep it simple.
All you have to do is focus on ONE tiny step at a time, ideally the first and most basic.
If your aim is to go to the gym, for example, start by making a habit of utilizing a calendar to schedule your time this week.
You might not even make it to the gym during this early skill-building time. That doesn’t matter; you’re now working on the calendar.
You’ll be able to do the next item next week.
This is a diagram that we utilize in our Coaching program. It demonstrates how what clients do today contributes to the Coaching outcome/goal they set for themselves.
Get yourself an excellent coach.
Getting advice from a professional coach is the quickest way to precisely measure your skill and performance — and to do things better.
Remember how critical it is to check your blind spots and mirrors? Coaches can help with it. Nobody is born an expert at anything.
Coaches are similar to your dashboard and visibility. They provide helpful information to point you in the right direction as well as ongoing feedback on your progress.
They don’t judge you, like a speedometer or a fuel gauge, but they do assist you in making educated judgments about what to do next.
What should I do next?
If you want to improve at anything, don’t try to tackle all of the aspects of it at once.
Begin small. Here’s how to do it.
- Be willing to learn. Accept criticism. Have a “beginner’s mind” attitude. Allow yourself to consider the possibility that your assumptions are incorrect.
- Allow yourself to be “imperfect” for a while. It’s quite acceptable to suck at stuff. You can improve your skills if you wish to. All it takes is a little instruction, guidance, and practice. It’s not a huge deal.
- Examine and map out all of the stages involved in what you’re attempting to do. Then subdivide those steps… because you’ve probably skipped a few you weren’t even aware of.
- Continue moving backwards and searching for missing links in the chain. Do a “reverse-engineering analysis” if you get stuck. What had to happen before you could do what you were trying to achieve?
- Concentrate on just ONE item at a time. Don’t try to do everything. Do ONE THING BEFORE THE NEXT THING at a time.
- Measure and evaluate. You may believe you can or cannot do something, but how can you be sure? Figure out ways to measure what you’re accomplishing objectively: Track and document facts and data using timers, measuring tapes, pictures, or other methods.
- Obtain feedback, guidance, and coaching. Take a look around. Who can assist you in improving your skills? (Hint: it’s something we’re quite excellent at.)
Do you want to be the healthiest, fittest, and strongest version of yourself?
Most people are aware that getting enough exercise, eating well, sleeping well, and managing stress are all vital for looking and feeling better. However, they require assistance in putting that information into practice in the context of their hectic, sometimes stressful lives.
Over the last 15 years, we’ve used the Coaching technique to assist over 100,000 people lose weight, gain strength, and improve their health… for the long haul… no matter what obstacles they face.
It’s also why, through our Level 1 and Level 2 Certification programs, we teach health, fitness, and wellness professionals how to coach their own clients through similar issues.
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